From Proving Yourself to Being Yourself

Living in South Africa for 19 years shaped how I understand leadership - not just as a position, but as a deeply personal journey shaped by history, identity, and the quiet burdens we carry.

Many of the leaders I work with - across industries, continents, and cultures - have spent years proving themselves in environments that weren't always safe or inclusive. They have worked relentlessly to earn their place at the table, often carrying not just their own ambitions, but the weight of generations before them - those who had fewer choices, fewer chances, and whose struggles paved the way. And often also carrying the responsibility of the hope of generations ahead of them.

And yet, there comes a moment in a leader's journey when survival is no longer the goal. When proving yourself is no longer necessary. When the question shifts from 'How do I fit in?' to 'Who am I ready to become?' I'm always excited when I meet a leader who is at this place in their career and life.

My intention in my work is to support leaders as they step beyond the limitations they've long shouldered and into the leader - the person- they can finally openly celebrate. The kind of leader whose presence, impact, and legacy reflect their true values, not just their achievements. Not by abandoning where they come from, but by integrating it. Not by proving their worth, but by trusting it and letting it free.

If you recognize this in yourself and are wondering what leadership looks like when you no longer have to fight for your place, I'd love to talk.